Matthew's Journal

Does feeling like you've got a "weekends only" or "part-time" SO mean anything to anyone?

Oh yes. Been there. It can work, it can work really well. Or that feeling can be the start of the end.

It totally depends on how you both feel about the situation, and hence you need to know how you each feel, hence you need to talk about it and be utterly honest about how you feel, and what you want out of the relationship.

This kind of relationship can work perfectly fine if you're both happy with the amount of time you see each other, what you do in that time, and how much you let each other into your lives the rest of the week, including how much you contact each other.

If there is some imbalance, e.g. one of you is waiting for the time in the future when you can be together more often, whilst the other is happy and not expecting changes, then there's a problem. If one of you is happy speaking just a couple of times during the week, and the other actually wants a nightly 30 minute phone call, then there's a problem. If one of you is miffed that when apart, the other goes out and spends time with friends, sometimes deciding to do this when they could actually make the effort to see the SO, then there's a problem.

Sometimes you find out you're hoping for different things, but can find a compromise and it works out ok. Sometimes a compromise can't be found.

I truely hope you find you're happy with however it all turns out.

*hugs* Let me know if you'd like to me ramble on more, less coherently, about the above...